By Mabel Iam, www.mabeliam.com

No other human activity is initiated with such powerful hopes and expectations as an amorous relationship. This is true even for those who have failed or encountered obstacles in the past with other relationships. At the start of a new relationship, the enthusiasm of gambling on love is renewed always. And, unlike most of life’s activities, falling in love is not something we can plan ahead of time. It just happens. It also happens, sometimes, without us realizing it: we find ourselves involved in a relationship and ask ourselves, “How did I get to this point?” Then we realize that the words “I love you” have escaped our hearts, our lips. It is at this point that our mind asks, “What now?”

As long as we are willing to admit it, every human being in some way goes through this at some point in life. It’s that marvelous aspect of love and relationships that cannot be controlled like other activities that develop normally in our lives. And this is how all of these questions arise after we hear ourselves affirm “I love you.”

Love is an art - or it may be something far beyond that. Love is a science that assists us in living our lives to the fullest. This is the first step for us to understand: becoming aware that we have to allow ourselves to learn. A relationship is always a renewed experience. In relating with ourselves, we also have to probe deeply and know that we have to establish the relationship over and over again every day - sometimes starting from zero.

A romantic relationship is a continuous exchange of emotions, ideas, opinions, wills, beliefs, actions, reactions, vibrations, thoughts and objectives between two people. The foundation for happiness is set when this exchange is positive and balanced. Through it, love can be rediscovered and shared by way of trust, understanding, gentleness, union and acceptance.

This process is learned, like any art. In fact, it is an act or maturity if you desire to learn to efficiently and consciously solidify a relationship. This process, when carried out by the couple, is marvelous and very gratifying for the evolution of the relationship, on the material, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. If we wish to learn how to love, we must proceed in the same way as we would in learning how to master anything else: art, music, painting, carpentry, medicine, engineering or whatever you choose.

Could it be that we generally only place value on learning things that can bring us money or prestige?

Love benefits every level of our existence. Thanks to this, it is life’s central theme and the primary area on which we have to focus our energies.

Yes, whether we want to admit it or not, all of us will fall in love at some point in our lives. And we will need to learn something about this marvelous art of love because there are schools for every other activity that we undertake – yet for this, the most interesting of all human activities, there is no school.

We must agree that amorous relationships have certain stages, mannerisms, contracts, power-exchanges, and so forth. When these aspects are known and respected, the relationship acquires extraordinary power and produces maximum enjoyment, generating absolute happiness.

There are as many types of amorous relationships as there are people. Every human being is capable of loving dozens of people, each in a different way. And every one of those relationships may be called love. Since it is impossible to arrive at an analysis of infinite concepts, I have classified several stages that characterize amorous relationships into five groups: self-love or self-esteem, attraction, passion, romance and commitment.

It is important to know each of these stages when it comes to choosing the right partner.

It is also very important to know the vital role that unrealistic myths and expectations play upon what we wish for in an amorous relationship. This is something that can last for years, undermining our satisfaction by leading us to expect far more than what is truly available in the act of sharing daily life.

You can find more information of this topic in the book:” I love you. Now What?” by Mabel . Iam Copyright Mabel Iam ® 2008.

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